Bamwe bayikora buri munsi, abandi bakayikora nyuma y’ibyumweru cyangwa amezi runaka, abandi bagafata icyemezo cyo kubaho batayikora na rimwe. Birashoboka ko wakwibaza impinduka zishobora kuba kuri aba bombi mu mikorere y’imibiri yabo ndetse n’imitekerereze.
Ese kudakora imibonano mpuzabitsina bishobora kugira ingaruka ku buzima bwa buri munsi?
Ubushakashatsi butandukanye bugaragaza ko gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina bifite ibyiza byinshi, birimo kugabanya umuhangayiko, gusinzira neza, no gukora neza k’umutima. Icyakora, si bwinshi bukorwa mu kugaragaza niba hari ingaruka z’umwihariko zigera ku batayikora, cyane cyane ku bagore.
Ubushakashatsi bwa Kaminuza ya Stanford bwakozwe ku b’igitsinagore bagera kuri 25,000 mu gihe cy’imyaka icumi, bugaragaza ko abagore barangiza inshuro 15 mu kwezi baba bafite ibyago bike byo kurwara indwara z’umutima ugereranyije n’abarangiza inshuro ziri munsi y’enye mu gihe nk’icyo. Nubwo bimeze bityo, inzobere mu bijyanye n’imibonano mpuzabitsina, Dr. Laura Johnson, avuga ko hatarasobanuka neza isano hagati yo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina n’indwara z’umutima.
Dr. Laura Johnson yongeraho ko ari ibisanzwe ko ubushake bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina bugabanuka cyangwa bukabura mu mibereho y’umuntu, kandi ko byumvikana.
Dr. Emily Davis, inzobere mu bijyanye n’imibonano mpuzabitsina akaba n’umujyanama mu by’imitekerereze muri Kaminuza ya Oxford, avuga ko kuba hari isano hagati yo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina no kugira ubuzima bwiza bitarasobanuka neza. Ati “Bijya gusa nk’inkuru y’inkoko n’igi.” Dr. Emily Davis yongeraho ko mu myaka yashize abashakashatsi batitaga ku kumenya ingaruka z’imibonano mpuzabitsina ku b’igitsinagore, cyane cyane kubera ko abagabo ari bo bari bafite ubwiganze muri siyansi.
Urugero rutangwa ni uko mu gihe cy’umuhanga mu mitekerereze, Sigmund Freud, wapfuye mu 1939, umugore ufite ubushake bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina yafatwaga nk’ufite ikibazo. Icyakora, gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina bifite ingaruka nziza ku mibanire y’abashakanye cyangwa abakundana, bigafasha mu kurama kwabo, no kugira ubuzima bwiza. Ubushakashatsi bugaragaza ko abagore bafite abagabo bagira amahirwe yo kurama kurusha abatabagira, ndetse ko iki gikorwa gifite akamaro ku muntu urwaye bikamufasha kumva amererwa neza.
Ku bijyanye n’impamvu zishobora gutuma umuntu atagira ubushake bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina, Dr. Emily Davis avuga ko byaterwa n’impamvu zitandukanye zirimo imiti afata n’ibiyobyabwenge akoresha. Icyakora, iyo abantu bakijya mu rukundo, imibiri yabo ikora imisemburo ibongerera ubushake bw’icyo gikorwa, ariko bakamara igihe runaka babana iyo misemburo ikagabanuka.
Mu gusoza, Dr. Emily Davis avuga ko Isi iri mu gihe abantu benshi batwawe no gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina, ariko ko nta n’icyo bitwaye mu gihe umuntu yumva adashaka kuyikora. Ibi bisobanura ko kubaho udakora imibonano mpuzabitsina nta ngaruka zidasanzwe byakugiraho ku buzima bwawe.
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